Every single individual lives according to their own personal culture. Bringing together people from all walks of life requires great leadership that brings a positive influence to everyone. In this episode, Andy McDowell sits down with Aileda Lindal to discuss how one can transform from a decent leader to a truly influential and impactful one. She explains how a balanced spirit, mind, and body can help you with this undertaking, attracting individuals from all over with your thoughts, attitudes, and mindset. Aileda also discusses the contrast in leadership between men and women, as well as the silver lining of the pandemic in bringing people together despite not meeting each other face to face.
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THE PATH TO GREAT LEADERSHIP WITH AILEDA LINDAL
Unfortunately, once again, Zach Levy, my partner in crime, is not going to be able to join us, but as I promised you, we are coming down to the end of season three of the show and we are shooting a shot across the bow of humanity and leadership by bringing you three high powered coaches with which we’re going to have a ton of golden nuggets.
We did it on our last episode with Dominey and again, with our guests in this episode, and next week of items that you can use to integrate into your life and your self-leadership that’s going to change your world. I guarantee it by the people I have plucked from this big blue globe that we live on called Earth to bring you. I’m going to say this as a guy, all three are women. It’s a mic drop. All three are women that should tell you something about where we are going as human beings, as a society, and as the world.
What are women known for? They’re known for their healing powers. The world needs to heal. If you don’t understand that, turn on the local news. I invite you to do that. Turn on the local news and tell me that the world doesn’t need to heal. I’m sitting on the couch, scratching my head going, “How are we going to end this season and do it with a bang?” What came to mind was I need to bring fellow coaches to the table, and teammates of mine, for discussion and bring you those golden nuggets needed so that you can join us in the healing.
It’s because the healing happens one person at a time. That’s how the world gets changed, one person at a time. I’m hoping in this conversation that it becomes readily apparent to you because the guest I have brought is a superpower in that area. She goes by the name of Aileda and that right there should tell you that she’s pretty unique just with her name.
If you want to find her, all you have to do is ask her. Ask Aileda is her website. It’s where you can find her. I’m not going to read her bio because I don’t know that 5, 6, or 7 sentences in a couple of paragraphs do her any justice. I can’t wait for her to tell you her story. With that being said, Aileda, welcome to the show. I’ve been waiting for this day.
Aileda and I had an hour-and-a-half conversation that probably could have gone all day when we first met because she’s such a kindred spirit. I consider her a teammate in what we’re trying to achieve out in the world. I can’t wait for this platform to shine what she brings to the table to the world for that reason. Aileda, say hi.
Hi. Thank you so much, Andy. Thanks for having me.
Why don’t you take a few minutes and talk about how your life journey has been, what you did, and how you got to where you are now?
I had a childhood like everyone else did. It started with my name. We’ll take it back to that. I had a very creative mom and she wound up taking my godmother’s name and spelling it backwards. It’s Italian. Her name was Adelia so my mom came up with Aileda. It’s very unique, but also, they say there’s so much about a person and their name, and we often hear that. I’m like, “That’s super interesting because if you listen to mine, it’s Aileda. My nickname throughout school was always Leads because I was always taking the lead on a lot of things.
Usually, it’s almost like a mother hen factor to me. I was always scooping my friends up and talking them out of doing crazy stuff that maybe they could have gotten hurt, injured, or whatever. That was always a key element about me. Also, I always speak up for others. From the time I was super young, I remember walking home repetitively. This is probably when I was seven. My mom and my dad had just gone through a divorce. We had moved into a new area. My grandmother was my nanny. That wasn’t super cool either. I was in grade school. There are some kids who I had to walk along this path and they were a little bit older. They would dauntingly not let it go walking home from school each day.
I remember I was scared to death of this girl. She was so tall and she was a couple of grades bigger. Finally, one day she had the audacity to say something about my mom instead of about me. The minute she said something about my mom, I snapped. I remember it was a cold winter day. I grabbed her leather gloves out of her hands and I like slapped her face with them. I gave her a shove and all these construction workers because there was all this construction going on in this neighborhood. All of a sudden, everybody drops their tools because they watched me get ridiculed on the way home every single day. They were like, “Go, little girl.”
That was probably my pivotal defining moment in life where I was like, “Not okay.” That was a boundary. That was a hard line for me. It was very empowering for me then because, from that moment on, I was like, “I don’t have to take anybody’s crap in the world.” That continued. Anytime I would see other people start to belittle or put other people down. Even teachers throughout school, because, let’s face it, HR has come a long way.
I remember kids being relentless back in the day, but teachers also were sometimes. It’s not correct in the way they would address some things or handle some kids who maybe had handicaps or were more challenged in the world. I remember taking a strong stand when I was in high school and about ready to graduate. I went through a whole big hoopla. Thank heavens the principal liked me because it was such an uproar. It’s interesting how your character gets easily defined somewhere in childhood, and then it continues because, in junior high, Leads was my nickname all the time. It’s what my friends reference me as and still do. Here we are in the here and now and I’m still doing it, Andy.
My life has been defined by nicknames. We talk about the seasons of life. Every time I went into a new season of life, I got a new nickname from a set of friends. I have been collecting nicknames.
It’s funny how that works.
You were in the corporate world for a while and then migrated over to the coaching world.
I was in the corporate world for the whole first half of my career, primarily in training and development leadership roles and regional-type roles. I’ve worked in both large Corporate America doing training and development for several years as well as large private entrepreneur organizations. One of the largest privately held video retailers in the Northwest, I went to work for them back in the day with regional roles.
I had a lot of traveling and team development throughout my career. I then started consulting and advising. When I started it, that’s been going on for about thirteen years on an overall whole now that I have been working as an entrepreneur myself and being subcontracted out by corporations from the outside. My job is to go in and quickly find what the challenge is within the organization. What do they think their challenge is? What do I perceive their challenge to be?
All of it starts at the top always. You have to have compliance of people being willing to have to want the change bad enough that they’re like, “Yes, we’re all in. Please fix this. That’s what I do. I call myself a bit of a business alchemist. I have years of experience walking into organizations that were either going to be merged or acquired, for sale in some aspect. I quickly and easily identify what’s wrong with them and know all the right questions to ask. I can pull that information out much faster than I would say the average person. It allows me then to go to work creating my alchemy. Something has got to give. I’m here because they need change. We start crafting that and each account is unique as you well know.
Change always starts at the top of the team. You need to have the compliance of people who are willing to participate in making a real difference.
Everybody is different. Every organization and culture is different. In my world within Boeing, every airport was different. That’s why I call the team that worked for me artists because you got a blank canvas coming into a brand new airport with its all different needs, cultures, terrain, and issues at bear. You get to be an artist or an alchemist and figure out what the solution is for it.
That was a big mindset change for my team. When I started using language like that, they’re like, “Nobody has ever said that about me. I’m an artist.” You’re being creative. You’re an artist. You’re figuring out a solution for things like Beijing Airport for the Olympics and Sochi Airport for the Olympic Games. Both airports are very different with different challenges and issues. Therefore, you need an alchemist to come in and figure it out.
You have to stay in that creative space.
That’s a whole nother subject. We could do a whole episode about creativity. It’s a huge issue and conversation piece for me but, let’s move on. In your work, in your opinion, how much is self-leadership important to leadership? That’s probably a loaded question.
It’s a great one. I’m like, “Did you see my TEDx,” which I know you haven’t, but that’s in there. It’s a big chunk of what I stood on the stage and spoke about.
That’s a big part of my platform and what I’m writing my book on. That’s why I’m interested in your opinion on it.
My take on it as you know, but the rest of the world reading probably doesn’t. My passions are neuroscience, quantum physics, and epigenetics. Based on that, I can tell you that, and you and I went down this rabbit hole, but we’re going to go again because conscious awareness for me is where it’s at. When I say they say, let’s say Time Magazine did a brain and science article in June of 2015. One of the things that they came forth with was a group of psychologists saying that we’re conscious only a super small fraction of the time in comparison to our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind is perpetually running us for the majority of our lives. The conscious mind is when you make new choices and new decisions. I equate that to free will.
I’m like, “Wait a minute here. We should probably rev up our ability to understand what conscious awareness is and grow conscious awareness within ourselves, which is essentially self-awareness. It’s because without it, we’re not making new choices and new decisions and on average. Psychology Today put out an article that said we have about 70,000 thoughts a day. Thirty-five thousand of those are decisions that we’re making.
Leaders are making profound decisions that impact us in big ways, depending on the magnitude of what that leader touches and what they do in the world. I said, “This makes me have a big question mark.” That question mark for me is, is this maybe the reason why history continues to repeat itself century after century? It’s because until now, we haven’t had the technology through neurology and a lot of our medical fields to even understand the full capacity of our own mind and brain.
There are people in this arena like Joe Dispenza, who quote ratios. They say, “On average, 5% of the time we’re conscious. The other 95% of the time we’re not.” When you start looking at the brainwave patterns, the frequencies, the EEGs and you start looking at this information, I’m like, “No way buddy. We’re designed to be conscious way more than that.”
Conscious awareness and self-awareness for me are where the huge movement needs to push in leadership. You have to enter that arena. Leaders must enter that arena because the old no longer serves us and it’s time to get creative and start doing new things. We have so much knowledge now because of our latest technologies and advancements that we didn’t know before. Even about our own physical being but especially about our brains, Andy. The brain to me is like, “Forget about it.” Everybody needs to know more about their brain.
I think sometimes, we’ll need to get on a Zoom call and continue our conversation because I got thoughts on those ideas too, and what I’m putting in my book, but I want to get to other things in this episode. As I said, we could go all day. I think you and I, we’re both so passionate about this subject, but I know you’re big on self-leadership.
I’m big on self-leadership. My whole platform is centered around it and to me, a person’s leadership outside themselves, leading teams and so forth, is an essence. The word I use is the essence of your self-leadership. It’s a reflection. It’s the essence of what’s going on here. I’m a big person of what I call a personal culture, which is what’s going on here between mind, body, soul, and heart, and how all that’s involved in your decision-making affects your leadership.
It’s like the culture of a business and how decisions are being made and how the heart, soul, mind, etc. of the business affect your behavior in front of customers with your employees and everything else. That’s why if I was in your role where I’m going in to be an alchemist in a company, that’s where I’d be starting.
I say this. The order is spirit, mind, and body. We always hear mind, body, and spirit, but the correct order is spirit, mind, and body.
Let’s move on. How does a leader move from good to great?
That comes with that piece about self-awareness like we talked about and self-understanding. There are many ways for leaders to push the envelope and evolve within themselves and advance themselves. One could be education. Gaining more knowledge is always a phenomenal way. Meditating is another thing that I highly recommend, but there has to be an internal self-journey.
There has to be a willingness to lead by example. Good to great for me means the difference between motivating and/or motivated and inspirational. Good to me is somebody who’s motivated but they continue to need that nudge a little bit. They continue to need motivation. Whereas an inspired individual is already so directly locked in. They’re so all in committed to what it is that they’re focused on and what they feel is the purpose of what they’re doing.
They understand their why.
The people who have their purpose and they’re locked into their purpose are phenomenal leaders because that’s at the very core of their being. That’s what’s driving everything. That sends out this incredible energy and passion that everybody who is surrounding them feels and is impacted by. It is super contagious and everybody wants to be on that train. It’s so much easier to have an inspired leader be able to have a movement within their organization and pull people along in that slipstream of momentum. It’s kinetic energy that continues to catapult and push things perpetually forward almost effortlessly.
People who are locked into their purpose are phenomenal leaders. It is what drives their incredible energy and passion, which is contagious to everybody around them.
It’s not only inspirational, but they’re highly influential because of that. They’re using the power of influence to get people to move and change.
I don’t even think they’re even trying to be influential. I think they’re just hardcore locked into exactly who they are. I’ll give you an example. It’s like a Richard Branson. The cultures that he seems to create, I don’t know. I haven’t had a meeting with them myself. It would be phenomenal. I would not turn that meeting down only because of all of the things that I’ve read.
There are others out there also. For me, it’s also embodying what it is that you’re talking about actions matching words. A great leader is going to have actions that match their words and they’re going to have almost like a conviction about those actions. When you say influence, when you have somebody like that who you’re working with, the influence is automatic. It’s a genuine thing that happens.
It’s a natural outcome. You don’t only have to be intentional about it because they’re so locked in.
It becomes a part of the environment and the ecosystem as you were saying.
If self-leadership is huge in an effort to have a person find their why, be that locked in, know where their passions are, and be living in the moment every day with that passion and that locked-in-ness, given all your studies about the mind that you were expressing, how important is the mindset in that partnership with being locked in and understanding your purpose and your why?
It’s vital. Another thing that I try to tell people is I hear people bring up technology oftentimes, AI and this and that. I’m like, “Let me explain to you how technology can help you with your mindset.” What I want you to do is I want you to scroll through your phone. I want you to pay attention to your newsfeeds and primarily what’s coming up and reflect back at you on your phone.
Whatever’s reflecting back is where your primary focus and attention is every single time you click on, look at, or pay attention to something on your phone. It’s going to propagate more of it and bring more of it back to you. That quickly and easily can tell you, “Am I primarily focused on positive information? Is that what’s bubbling up in my newsfeed, or am I primarily focused on negative information?” If you’re finding that you have a tendency to be hardwired into the negative, I would say start trying to seek out something new that you’re going to program your mind with that’s a positive piece of information.
You’re attracting based on your thoughts. Attitudes and mindsets are all magnets that’s attracting information, people, and situations into your life.
It dramatically impacts your thought process and your physical well-being. When you’re talking about somebody’s personal ecosystem, we do have a natural pharmacy within our bodies. If we’re thinking primarily negative thoughts, it also impacts our total health and overall well-being. There’s no separation.
My life journey has been all about self-esteem. I had self-esteem issues in high school and college in my early twenties. It was a huge worrywart because of it. That’s what I was attracting into my life because my focus was overthinking and these things could come into my life and I’m worried that it’s going to happen. Guess what? It showed up because that’s where all my thoughts were. All that overthinking and so forth was until I got into therapy, self-help books, and everything else to help me to unwind from that on my leadership journey to have some self-love and find my purpose and everything changed.
I haven’t discussed this with anybody so I wanted to throw this out. It’s the end of the season and it goes back to the opening statements of the episode. What do you feel are the natural strengths of a leader who’s a woman and the natural strengths of a leader as a man? The reason why I want to ask this question is if somebody is sitting on the board of directors of a corporation and they let go of a CEO.
In looking to fill the position with somebody that’s going to come in and help fix, heal, or deal with the issues of the day with the company. I think that conversation in the past has been, “We need a fix-it guy or we need somebody who’s strong in operation or finances. We need to restructure the finance.” You can see where I’m going with this. There hasn’t been a whole lot of conversation about whether should it be a man or a woman.
I think that part of what needs to move into the everyday conversation as companies get in that situation is, “What are the strengths of a female leader?” What are the strengths of a male leader? That needs to be part of our conversation together as a board of directors as to who we bring in to fix whatever needs to be done for the company and where it needs to go.
I think it’s an interesting perspective to take on it. Ultimately, at the end of the day, it’s who’s the best person for the job, but you’re right because each has different strengths, typically, and key characteristics. There’s no one size fits all but feminine energy usually comes forth with more compassion and patience. We’re mothers for a reason throughout our lives.
Not always, but oftentimes, patience is a key part of that. Compassion is a key part of that. When we talk about nurturing and development, I think that if there’s a lot of disruption and high turnovers within an organization, it’s good to consider a female leader in a situation like that. It’s because a female leader is going to come in and have more of a tendency to approach that situation with eyes and ears. Also, listen to the people, take the time to do that, and solve or bridge the gap because there has to be a gap somewhere if you have a high rotation in turnover.
This then costs an organization more money than they ever know because I haven’t walked into an organization yet, high level or not that knows their numbers. They know they have a high turnover, but they don’t know what that costs them. Nobody has taken the time to calculate that because it impacts an organization in so many financial ways.
That would be one thing I would say. The masculine side of things where a situation would be better is that it’s one of those single focal points like you were talking about. Maybe the organization isn’t suffering from a personnel standpoint. The organization is suffering in some other capacity and super specific-driven towards numbers or something of that nature.
I’m a strong leader when it comes to all of those things. I’m super blessed, but I’m going to say a tendency. It’s proven that men’s and women’s brains also think differently. Women’s brains are designed to toggle. We toggle and we multitask quite successfully. A male’s brain typically will hone in on one thing with a single-minded focus and not depart from that focus until the goal line has been hit. They’re very set on that one thing. It’s an interesting scenario you gave because it depends on what the disruption is within the tower and what needs to be addressed.
Women’s brains are designed to toggle and multi-task successfully. On the other hand, men’s brains will typically focus on one thing and not depart from it until the goal line has been hit.
I think it boils down to energy. There’s not to say if we need a big culture change, we need more nurturing, patience, or what are typical feminine energy needs in the position. That’s not to say you can’t find a man that has those skills. He’s worked his EQ muscles or whatever else that as that and would be a good fit even though at his core is masculinity. We probably could find more female candidates that fit that bill because it’s their nature. It’s their core energy to be that way. It’s probably more important to say, “Let’s not worry about gender. Let’s look at the energies and how they relate to the skills and talents and try to ask our questions in an interview process that helps to flush that out from that perspective.”
That’s why I saying you could have a female leader who is also very strong and that single-minded focus on financials e just as easily as well. These are other components, but you’re right. It’s what the energy call for the situation as well. It’s because then, you get into a whole additional mix. Leadership is not this or that. It’s a higher makeup of the individual, their background, and their experience. Are they positive primarily? It’s the same thing. The list goes on and on. What’s their leadership style? Do they have a tendency? What’s the age group of the people who are being led? All of that goes into the dynamic.
Leadership has such an impact on the company. In my opinion, you need to take these kinds of conversations. You need to have the patience to look at all aspects because you’re bringing in somebody that’s going to make a huge impact on the organization and you need to get it right for whatever the needs are of the company at that time.
If the leadership was a diamond, I always like to use diamonds a lot in analogies. We need to be rotating the diamond around and looking at all the facets of the needs and the position and who’s the best candidate that’s going to bring strengths, or whatever they may be in as many of those facets as possible, regardless of what the gender is. Where is your leadership going? Do you think it’s stagnant? Are we at an inflection point? Are we changing? What is the pandemic brought?
We’re definitely in a different space than we have been ever before because now we have remote work and all of these things that have entered into the equation as well as the pandemic. Now, there’s no stopping technology. That’s our next big disruptor in the world and that’s global. Again, it’s interesting that all these things are happening globally too. It’s not only in one little section. It’s like this is all big change across the entire globe. I think it’s done a few things. It’s caused a clear division. When I say clear division, people now clearly see a difference between what I’m going to call maybe an older leadership style of dictatorship and telling people what to do and expecting them to do.
It’s command and control.
That is not nearly as desirable moving forward into the future because the younger generations are like, “It doesn’t have to be like this.” These generations that are coming through to give credit are some of the most well-educated generations that are coming up as well because they have information at the speed of light where we had to obtain all of our information out of encyclopedias much of our lives.
They’re coming through with global communication from the time they’re little, potentially with friends worldwide, which is also pretty amazing versus the people who are in your neighborhood. When it comes to more of a worldwide or humanity perspective, the leadership of the dictator or the “Let’s lead with war, destruction, and devastation,” is more of an archaic way of doing business moving forward. I don’t see that as winning popularity across any leadership platforms. For lack of a better term, I want to say it’s dying off. The majority of humanity is coming forth saying like, “We don’t want that anymore.”
Due to technology, the world is starting to understand more and more how that method of leadership doesn’t bring value.
When you have people who are blessed enough to travel the world and experience different cultures, you know that always what you see or what you’re told is not necessarily 100% accurate. What the news shows you aren’t necessarily 100% accurate. There are nice, beautiful, and amazing people throughout the world in all of these different cultures. They’re beautiful. They’re gracious. They’re kind. They have very little and they’re some of the nicest people on the face of the planet. It’s an awakened leader of the future far greater than the people who grew up in the same town and never left and became dominant leaders within their small little pond.
That’s why I’ve always encouraged people as somebody who’s traveled around the world for his career if you can afford it, get on an airplane and go see the rest of the world. You’ll come to understand that even beings in other parts of the world have to put their pants and clothes on the same way they have to put food on the table. They have to put a roof over their head.
Those that are outside of government are no different than you and I. They have different traditions and different cultures and they’re all valuable to humanity but you won’t come to ingrain that within your heart until you hop on an airplane and go spend time with those people to understand that in your heart.
The best learning is through experience. Knowledge is wonderful, amazing, and necessary, but the practical application of that knowledge is where it’s at.
Another deep question. What does humanity need to work on? Where can the people reading this join you and me in the forces to move humanity where it needs to go? What do we need to work on?
Humanity needs to shift its focus from finding all the reasons why we are not the same and why we’re different. We need to shift the focus from finding all the reasons why we’re different to finding all the reasons why we’re the same. There’s a commonality and a golden thread that runs through everything. There’s no escaping it.
Humanity needs to shift its focus from finding reasons why we are not the same to looking for reasons why we are the same. There’s a golden thread that runs through everything.
It usually happens when people get vulnerable and start to share their stories. Usually, oddly enough, this is around potential traumas and/or some of the more challenging things that somebody’s faced in their life. I promise you, there’s always someone who’s going to be like, “No way. You too? I thought I was the only one.” Because that’s been the way that we’ve gone about things, that’s one of the things that this form of communication, the computers, and the technology is giving us. It is realizing there is a golden thread and it is that.
When we start sharing those things that has a ripple effect, that is the golden thread that connects humanity. That is back to your point about feminine energy and that compassion for one another. It’s not oftentimes though until you share an experience and someone else can say, “I can completely relate to that. I lived through something similar and now there’s an instant bond. Now, there’s an instant connection.”
If we could take a step back and look at the power of the pandemic. I’m not an advocate here of having a pandemic, don’t get me wrong here, but if we could be researchers and take a step back. Look at the pandemic, one of the silver linings per se that the pandemic will bring to humanity is what you said. It’s because we all went through it. We were all as vulnerable and susceptible to it. I don’t care if you’re Norwegian, South African, or Argentinian. Everybody in the world was susceptible to the virus.
We all went through it together. Different governments had different responses and so forth to it. Let’s put that on the shelf, but our humanity had to step up to the table because we all together, regardless of our nationality, and where we are on the Earth had to face this pandemic. The light was shown on that because it had to be. It’s a whole other episode. We can talk about what the universe was trying to achieve out of it but if we as humans and humanity can take a step back and say, “The pandemic inflection point and an opportunity for us as humans to sit back, reflect and say, ‘What is this teaching us? How can we do better? Where do we need to go?’”
We need each other. It’s contemplation time if you will. There were some who had no contemplation time and a whole different perspective because they were in the war zone, the medical practitioners.
Also, some were severely affected by it, losing loved ones, and so forth from it. I don’t want to diminish that at all. It’s like a war.
The one thing that it brought an awakening worldwide is that one minute somebody could be there and the next minute, they could be gone and all is one. One thing I love about the astronauts is when they travel up. One of the things that they say is that once they get that aerial view perspective and they’re high above it all. They can see the mass shifting of the Earth and the ecosystem. They can watch the sandstorms and the salt storms from high above. They can see things sweeping across our Earth. They come back down and they’re like, “We are for sure one humanity.” I feel like the pandemic gave us a baby peak of that, not that same aerial view as dramatic for a perception shift, but it did give us a shift.
It gave us a non-visual shift. Going up in the space gives you a visual picture of the shift, but the virus, you have to put on a very powerful microscope to see it but yet it’s wreaking havoc.
It was interesting because while everybody had to work to stay separated, people were still very much so all together in spirit during that time.
A perfect example is in my neighborhood, we come and go waving at each other in the car, “It’s good to see you, whatever.” We’re all leading our own separate lives and then we get stuck at home in the pandemic. Every Saturday afternoon, we were walking out to our little section of the street in the neighborhood with our chairs and our favorite beverage staying six feet apart from each other and connecting.
“How are you doing? How are you struggling with this? How can we help in ways that we’re allowed to help or give you words of encouragement or whatever to try and get through it?” It’s like, “Why aren’t we doing this all the time? Remind me of that.” Now that the pandemic is over, we’re back to our busy lives doing our own thing and we didn’t keep that behavior coming out of it because we went back to our old ways. It’s not the last question, but the next to the last question is, what’s your favorite part about being a coach?
The eureka moments. When I see that breakthrough in a person where I know that we’ve gotten to a point where there’s a huge breakthrough, there’s a eureka moment. It is an awakening and an epiphany to where somebody is like, “I’m never going back to the old way of doing that ever again.” They’re so committed because they now understand, see the impact, and feel the results of something in their life or their business.
It doesn’t matter. Both are one and the same. I always tell people, “You can’t separate the two.” Especially as a leader, you can’t separate your personal life from your professional life and think that those two do not sync. No matter what you think, those two sync. No matter what aspect a person has this epiphany, whether it be within their business world or their personal realm, it’s massive at times.
Leaders cannot separate their personal and professional lives. Those two are always synced.
It’s massive in such a huge ripple effect way that you think you’re touching one life, but you’re not touching one life. You’re touching several lives upon several lives. It’s almost like a tsunami if we could see the effects. If somebody could take one person, you changed that one person’s behavior or something that they’re doing that now reaches out and it touches other people.
You go through the ripple effect of their life and how now it changed the employee. It changed the employee’s relationships. It changed the employee’s children. Those children go out into the world differently than if that leader hadn’t touched that person’s life or whatever. It goes on and on. Those moments for me are the moments where I am like, “Yes.” That is what changes everything and that’s just one person.
I almost think of it like LinkedIn. You have first-level connections, second-level connections, and third-level connections. I call it a rediscovery process. To help a person rediscover who they truly are because they knew who they were when they came into this world, but conditioning sent them off on a lost trail. They rediscover who they are and start changing their personal culture, behaviors, decisions, and choices.
The most powerful tool they have in life is choice and so forth. It starts setting out that ripple effect. It starts with the first-level connections and then they change in some way and then all of a sudden, their change affects the second-level connections. As you perfectly said, it’s the ripple effect. That’s why I do it too. I like to see the shine in the eye and the smile on the face. They’ve defined what success looks like for themselves and they’re out hard-charging.
There is nothing better.
There is nothing quicker to get a tear in the eye of Andy McDowell than watching a person go out there and kick butt that I worked with. As I said, I could go on forever with this stuff, but unfortunately, people have to get on with their lives. They’re going to hit the stop button soon if we keep going on. I can’t thank you enough for coming to the show to share your wisdom.
I am so thankful you’re alive and that you’re in my life. I’m so thankful that you’re out there changing the world one person at a time. If somebody wanted to reach out and say, “I want to get to know this woman,” for whatever reason. She sounds like the best friend you want to connect with. She sounds like somebody that could help me in life. She sounds like someone I want to hang with. What’s the best way that they could reach out to you?
They can find me at AskAileda.com. If you’re looking at my website, otherwise, I’m across all social platforms @AskAileda. I’m super grateful as well. Thank you for being here. Thanks for having your platform, and your show, and for doing all that you do as well to make a huge change in the world. I am super appreciative.
As I told you in the green room, here comes the whopper of a question. The wine is up. It’s two outs, bottom of the night, then you’re going to hit a grand slam here. What do the words generate your value mean to you, Aileda?
I would say come forth and show up in the world with the intention to give that little bit extra or go the extra mile. They won’t expect it. They may not ask for it. They might not want it. They might even ask for it. Still, give them even a little bit more than what they asked for. Give them that value and going the extra effort. The extra mile has an impact on everything it is that you do.
I guarantee you that when you give more than what you take, even if it’s from a client and monetary value, or if you go with that little bit of extra and you give more than what you’ve taken, it will never be forgotten. That’s what makes the difference when somebody thinks about you. Also, don’t give it in a half-assed way. Give it in a very genuine and all-in way. That’s authentic, impressionable, and what continues to cultivate word of mouth no matter what level somebody is at on the business playing field personally and professionally.
For me, it’s taken all your thoughts. Where my mind goes is to say I’m a firm believer that the universe was intentional. We’re not happenstance. The universe was intentional in creating me, but the onus is on me to A) Understand that, B) Believe it and have faith in it, and C) Go do what I was created for in the world.
Pack your purpose.
I’m a firm believer the universe has an agenda or a desire or goals for us.
Also, a design and we have to do our part by following our intuition and surfacing our passions because those are the gifts that we’re meant to bring forth. They’re not there by accident.
Follow your intuition and unleash your passions. Those are the gifts that you are meant to bring forth. They are not there by accident.
Once again, I’m so thankful for you to join us to share your wisdom. For our readers, we’re coming down to a close here. We got one left. Our trio of amazing badass coaches, all women share their wisdom. I hope you got some golden nuggets that you can take away from Aileda and my conversation and use either as an influence, motivation, or something logical and factual that you could use to integrate into your life to make changes. Also, to use self-leadership to make a change in your life that will then send that ripple effect across everything and into the world.
That’s what it’s all about. We want a very churning sea because that means people are changing and the ripple effects are all happening in the ocean. We have a lot of waves out there that are pushing humanity along if you want a visual or an analogy of it. Have a great week and a great day. Keep generating your value in this world. Keep changing. Become a member of team humanity with Aileda and me in trying to make that ripple effect out in the world.
We will see you next time for our last episode of season three. We’re bringing in Catherine Thompson, another badass coach. She’s from the other side of the line, meaning Canada. I can’t thank you enough for tuning in and taking that valuable resource of yours called time and spending it with Aileda and me for the past hour and joining us here on the show. Take care.
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ABOUT AILEDA LINDAL
As a seasoned entrepreneur with over 13 years of experience, Aileda brings a wealth of consulting knowledge and expertise to the table, including a deep understanding of quantum physics, neuroscience, and epigenetics and a proven track record of facilitating breakthroughs, including coaching executives at Fortune 500 companies, consulting on trade agreements for The White House, and assisting individuals in finding their true passion. Aileda is committed to helping clients overcome limitations and reach new heights.
As a transformational coach, Aileda specializes in uncovering and developing hidden potential personally and for organizations. Her approach is centered on positivity, growth, and love; she educates people and inspires her clients to achieve their aspirations through expansion and growth. Every path to success and fulfillment is unique, and Aileda is dedicated to helping you discover and take the journey that will lead you to new heights. An abundant life awaits you, and Aileda is confident in her ability to guide you toward it with her expertise, experience, and support.
